Skip to content

Sensory & Dopamine

What to do: Write a physical menu of stimulation options for when you’re bored. Appetizers: quick hits (pet the dog, 5 jumping jacks). Entrées: deep-focus hobbies (coding, painting). Sides: add-ons (podcasts, fidgets).

Why it works: When you’re under-stimulated, you forget what you actually enjoy. A pre-made menu prevents the default slide into doom-scrolling.

What to do: Listen to brown noise — deep rumbles like heavy rain or a fan — instead of white noise.

Why it works: The ADHD community overwhelmingly prefers the lower frequencies. It acts as a “sound blanket” that quiets the internal monologue.

What to do: When you’re spiraling, raging, or stuck in paralysis, dunk your face in a bowl of ice water for about 30 seconds.

Why it works: It triggers the mammalian dive reflex, which slows your heart rate and prompts a physiological reset of the nervous system.

What to do: Eat a cold orange in a hot shower.

Why it works: The intense sensory contrast — hot water, cold fruit, strong citrus — provides a big dopamine jolt to wake up a sluggish brain.

What to do: Rest or relax with your wrists limp and curled against your chest.

Why it works: It’s a common neurodivergent posture that provides proprioceptive comfort and gentle self-soothing.

What to do: Avoid overhead ceiling lights in favor of lamps, LED strips, or fairy lights.

Why it works: Many people with ADHD are sensorily sensitive to harsh overhead lighting, which can quietly drain energy and stoke irritability.

What to do: When you can’t focus or feel overwhelmed, lie flat on the floor for a few minutes.

Why it works: The change in perspective and the grounding sensation can reset the nervous system and make a boring task feel slightly novel.

A note from me

I was diagnosed with ADHD five years ago. Its unmasking brought with it many life-altering manifestations, some of which were incredibly difficult to navigate.

The hardest blow was losing my lifelong passion for reading. The focus and stillness were simply gone. Wanting to better understand what was happening to me, I turned to audiobooks.

I spent many of the hours I was out on the road while out working, listening to book after book, until things slowly began to make sense.

ADHD reframed my entire past, but understanding it has allowed me to take back control of my present and future.

Somewhere in the darkest part of it — the isolation, the not-knowing — I wrote five words down for myself: love me, love my ADHD. It started as something I needed to believe. It became the reason this whole thing exists. It's why you're reading this on a site called lovemelovemyadhd.com.

If you're suffering, help is out there. I hope you find some of it here.

What this is

This guide is everything I wish someone had put in my hands on day one.

It is not the recycled advice you've heard a hundred times — just use a planner, have you tried trying harder. That advice never worked, because it was never built for a brain like ours. This is the real version: why your brain does the thing, and what to actually do about it. No willpower required. No shame attached.