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Mental Tricks

What to do: If you’ve got writer’s block on an essay or email, change the font to Comic Sans.

Why it works: It looks unprofessional and “silly,” which tricks the brain into treating the task as low-stakes. That lowers the perfectionism barrier so you can just write.

What to do: Reframe distractions as “side quests.” Went to the kitchen for water and ended up cleaning the fridge? You didn’t fail — you completed a side quest.

Why it works: It cuts the shame. You did accomplish something, even if it wasn’t the main objective — and shame is what deepens the paralysis.

What to do: For a sensory-hated task (like slimy dishes), consciously pretend you’re a robot with no feelings, executing a script.

Why it works: Dissociating from the sensory experience makes an otherwise unbearable task bearable.

What to do: When you want to buy something online, add it to a dedicated list or cart and wait 48 hours before deciding.

Why it works: The dopamine comes from the hunt, not the purchase. The urge usually fades within two days.

What to do: If you can’t tell whether a room is actually messy because you’ve gone “noseblind” to it, take a photo.

Why it works: Seeing the room in 2D on a screen highlights the mess your brain was filtering out in 3D.

What to do: Set an alarm an hour before you need to wake up, take your medication, and go back to sleep. When the second alarm goes off, it’s kicked in.

Why it works: It lets you wake up without the “morning fog” or paralysis, because the medication is already active.

A note from me

I was diagnosed with ADHD five years ago. Its unmasking brought with it many life-altering manifestations, some of which were incredibly difficult to navigate.

The hardest blow was losing my lifelong passion for reading. The focus and stillness were simply gone. Wanting to better understand what was happening to me, I turned to audiobooks.

I spent many of the hours I was out on the road while out working, listening to book after book, until things slowly began to make sense.

ADHD reframed my entire past, but understanding it has allowed me to take back control of my present and future.

Somewhere in the darkest part of it — the isolation, the not-knowing — I wrote five words down for myself: love me, love my ADHD. It started as something I needed to believe. It became the reason this whole thing exists. It's why you're reading this on a site called lovemelovemyadhd.com.

If you're suffering, help is out there. I hope you find some of it here.

What this is

This guide is everything I wish someone had put in my hands on day one.

It is not the recycled advice you've heard a hundred times — just use a planner, have you tried trying harder. That advice never worked, because it was never built for a brain like ours. This is the real version: why your brain does the thing, and what to actually do about it. No willpower required. No shame attached.